Sunday, February 28, 2010

We're looking for a MATCH!

adoptionbug.com We finished our parenting class yesterday! I am so excited, but now the nervous worry has begun to set in. We learned alot about how adopted children really experience a great sense of "loss" when they are adopted. You and I would think "Well, these kids should just be happy they are being adopted!" But, some are not. In their minds, the mother who beat them or neglected them is still their mother. Because our system is "flawed" no one every sits down with these kids and really explains to them why they are being taken out of the home. It is very sad, and something we will have to work through.

My other worry is that there are going to be unrealistic expectations set for our children by our families and others in the community who don't really understand the full extent of what these children may have faced in their short little lives. Today, my mother in law said she really hopes that our children climb up in her lap and want to sit with her like her other grandson does. It sadden me just a bit to think that she already has an expectation that these children will be just like the "birth" grandchild she already has. I had to gently explain to her that maybe they will want to do that, but to not be suprised when they are not immediately jumping in her lap ready for hugs and love. Some are so scared to be around people or uncomfortable with touch right off the bat. I am just worried that people will have their feelings hurt or feel rejected by our children for reasons that are unfortuante. My prayer is that God will give us opportunities to teach our families and friends to be sensitive to our children, but not to step around them. I also pray that God will give us children who are willing to see the genuine love that is waiting for them.

So, be in prayer for us and our families as we begin to see profiles of children and are hopefully matched to just the group God has waiting for us.

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